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Welcome to the JackinWorld "TroubleShooting" FAQtree, where we guide you to the answers to dozens of frequently asked questions. If you can't find what you want, check the JackinIndex — there are many other questions answered elsewhere on the site.

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1. Male masturbation, semen, or ejaculation
2. Concerns about your genitals (penis, testicles, etc.)
3. Puberty
4. Nocturnal emissions ("wet-dreams")
5. Female masturbation or anatomy
6. Sexual orientation
7. JackinWorld itself
8. JackInsider
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Male Masturbation, Semen, or Ejaculation

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Male Masturbation, Semen, or Ejaculation

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masturbation frequency
lubes
positions & techniques
fantasies & fetishes
climaxing too soon
problems reaching climax
orgasming but not ejaculating
ejaculating but not orgasming
ejaculation force
semen appearance or amount
eating semen
feelings afterwards
masturbation effects on the body
masturbating with another person, or talking to someone about masturbation
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Female Questions Regarding Male Masturbation, Semen, or Ejaculation

Many questions from female readers have been answered on this page of JackinQ&A. If you don't find a similar question there, and it regards male masturbation, semen, or ejaculation, check the JackinIndex for your topic, or submit your question for consideration for JackinQ&A. (Sorry, we don't answer questions individually.) If you'd like to try a different path through the FAQtree, go back to the top.










































• masturbation frequency

1. How often does the average male masturbate?
2. I think I'm addicted to masturbation. Is that possible?
3. How can I masturbate less often, or quit altogether?
4. None of the above





How often does the average male masturbate?
It depends on a lot of factors, the most important being age. For an 18-year-old male, a rough average is once a day or so. This is slightly higher for younger teenagers — maybe 10 or 12 times a week, and slightly lower for older people. You might be surprised by how often adult men masturbate — even happily married men.

For more on masturbation frequency, see JackinWorld Survey #3 and the Puberty Survey.


I think I'm addicted to masturbation. Is that possible?
It is, although many, many people think they're addicted when they're really just doing what comes naturally. For more on this topic, read the article Is Masturbation Addictive?.


How can I masturbate less often, or quit altogether?
It's tough; it takes a lot of will power. It can be done, especially if you're driven by very strong religious feelings. However, JackinWorld's position is that it's not worth it. We think you should enjoy the harmless pleasures your body can provide.


None of the above
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• lubes

1. What kinds of lubrication do you recommend?
2. What kinds of lubrication do you not recommend?
3. I'm embarrassed to buy anything at the drugstore — what kind of lubrication can I find around the house?
4. None of the above





What kinds of lubrication do you recommend?
We recommend a water-based personal lubricant, such as K-Y Jelly, which can be found in the drugstore as well as some supermarkets (in the feminine protection section). For more about lube choices, read our Lube Encyclopedia article.


What kinds of lubrication do you not recommend?
Soap and shampoo, which can be harsh and dry the skin severely (a temporary condition); anything not recommended for contacting the skin or burns to the touch; or anything abrasive. For more about lube choices, read our Lube Encyclopedia article.


I'm embarrassed to buy anything at the drugstore — what kind of lubrication can I find around the house?
Hand lotion, such as Vaseline Intensive Care, is a favorite. Vaseline petroleum jelly is favored by some (although never use such an oil-based lube with a condom — it can weaken the condom and cause it to break). People also have fun experimenting with foods — if it's safe to put in your body, it's safe to use it on the outside. For more about lube choices, read our Lube Encyclopedia article.


None of the above
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• positions & techniques

1. What position do most guys masturbate in?
2. I masturbate by lying on my stomach and rubbing against the bed — is that okay?
3. I'd like to try to orally stimulate my own penis, but I can't quite reach it. How can I do that, and is it normal to want to try?
4. I'm unable to ejaculate by masturbating with my hand — I have to be rubbing against something. Should I worry about that?
5. Can you recommend some good masturbation techniques?
6. None of the above





What position do most guys masturbate in?
The most common is lying on the back. Other favorites are lying face down, standing up (such as in the shower), or kneeling. For statistics on this topic, see JackinWorld Survey #2 (question #16).


I masturbate by lying on my stomach and rubbing against the bed — is that okay?
It's fine. that's just as valid as any other position.


I'd like to try to orally stimulate my own penis, but I can't quite reach it. How can I do that, and is it normal to want to try?
It's very common to want to do this. (There's an old joke that goes, "Why do dogs lick themselves? Because they can.") Actually doing it, though, is another question. Your penis has to be especially long (like over 8"), or you have to be especially limber, to succeed. Some guys are able to reach their penis by doing a backwards somersault and stopping in mid-roll. However, we must caution you to be careful when doing this. We heard from one fellow who wanted so badly to suck his own penis, he strained his back and had to be taken to the hospital — extremely embarrassing! Never perform any technique that makes you contort your body in an uncomfortable manner — you might be very sorry you did.


I'm unable to ejaculate by masturbating with my hand — I have to be rubbing against something. Should I worry about that?
No. It wouldn't hurt, though, to eventually learn to do it — that will open up options for sexual play with other people. We don't have any suggestions for this; just keep working at it (both literally and figuratively!).


Can you recommend some good masturbation techniques?
If we have techniques, they're already on JackinWorld. Be sure to check out the dozens of reader-submitted techniques in JackinExpert if you haven't seen that section.


None of the above
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• fantasies & fetishes

1. I fantasize about other guys and penises when I masturbate. Does that mean I'm gay or bi?
2. I fantasize about family members, older people, or other things I don't think I should be fantasizing about — is that okay?
3. I like to masturbate while wearing certain articles of clothing (perhaps even women's clothing) — is this normal?
4. None of the above





I fantasize about other guys and penises when I masturbate. Does that mean I'm gay or bi?
Not necessarily. Masturbation is a very penis-oriented activity: you have your penis in your hand, you're getting intense pleasure from it, you're touching yourself in other places, and you're getting ready to ejaculate. For some, the concept of girls just doesn't fit into the picture at this moment. Even if you do have a bisexual streak, this too is very common. Rather than getting freaked about it, just consider yourself normal. There's no reason to get upset over something that's shared by most guys — including, probably, most of your friends and family.

For more, read the article What Is Homosexuality? as well as JackinQ&A — Questions About Fantasies.


I fantasize about family members, older people, or other things I don't think I should be fantasizing about — is that okay?
It can be okay, yes — as long as you understand they're fantasies and are clearly different from reality or anything you would actually do in real life. If you do, feel free to take your fantasy life as far as it pleases you — even though your fantasies may seem "naughty" (which for many people is a strange part of the turn-on). For more, see JackinQ&A — Questions About Fantasies.


I like to masturbate while wearing certain articles of clothing (perhaps even women's clothing) — is this normal?
It's quite common, and we've heard about people having fetishes for everything from women's panties (ordinary) to men's V-neck sweaters (unusual). As long as you are not dependent upon the object for sexual arousal — in other words, it's a toy you use occasionally, and you're fully able to function sexually without the toy and with another person — then it's harmless. What you want to avoid is getting stuck in a rut where the toy is required for you to get an erection, for instance; in such a case you'd probably require therapy to begin learning to have a normal sexual response. For more, see JackinQ&A — Questions About Fantasies.


None of the above
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• climaxing too soon

I can never hold off my orgasm — I start masturbating and I ejaculate right away. How can I learn to delay my orgasm?
This is a common condition known as premature ejaculation. Basically you just need to learn to slow down — to slow your pace when you feel you're getting close to orgasm, or stop stimulating yourself completely for a minute, and then start up again. For more, see two JackinQ&A questions here; there's also a ton of other resources on the Web; go to your favorite search engine and enter "premature ejaculation." But beware of expensive pills or creams sold on shady Web sites — they're usually a ripoff.















































 
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